Transformation Through Intimacy: The Journey to Awakened Monogamy

TRANSFORMATION THROUGH INTIMACY:
The Journey Toward Awakened Monogamy
(revised edition)

Transformation through Intimacy: The Journey to Awakened Monogamy

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I love this book! There is a depth, a magic, and sense of ultimate fulfillment that we find through learning to love one other person completely. Through that immense courage and commitment we find that our beloved is actually a window into everything. This is a hero's and a heroine's journey; it asks everything of us, but also gives us all we have ever longed for. You need a great guide on such a journey, and Robert Augustus Masters is such a one, walking by your side as you venture into deeper waters, finding an ever deeper healing and freedom through awakened monogamy.

— Arjuna Ardagh, author of The Translucent Revolution

Robert Augustus Masters offers a thought provoking, clear, passionate and powerful roadmap straight to the nectar of intimate love. In the crucible/sanctuary of committed monogamous partnership, Masters shows us how to realize our deepest potentials for mutual healing, integration and awakening, as well as how to come radically alive in what he calls the “ashram of the 21st century.”

— Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of Calling in "The One"

For anyone who wants to more deeply understand the seeming mystery of relationship  — and transform their partnership to a sublime union of souls.

— Barry Vissell, MD & Joyce Vissell, RN, MS, authors of The Shared Heart



A couple of years ago, in his book Spiritual Bypassing, the brilliant teacher and wise therapist Robert Augustus Masters gave us all a splendid, pragmatic antidote to one of the great ills of our time: our pervasive attempts to achieve spiritual transcendence through misguided, subjective self-absorption. Now he's done it for us again, dissecting our equally pervasive ills and showing us ways to wholeness and sanity in the universally fascinating, troubling arena of intimate relationship.

Transformation through Intimacy: The Journey Toward Awakened Monogamy is so comprehensive, so down to earth, so vivid and raw, so unflinching and kind, so patient and persistent, it's hard to imagine that a more potent guidebook to healing the multiple dis-eases of today’s intimacies could possibly appear. There isn't a couple on Earth, nor a single seeking someone to love, nor anyone exploring multiple partnering or other unconventional arrangements, who can't benefit by looking into the numerous mirrors Robert holds up here as he traces our potential growth through four stages of maturity in intimacy.
And what a compassionate discipline he has engaged in the writing! Robert has distilled into simple, ordinary essences his highly sophisticated awareness of philosophical, developmental, and clinical theory and his vast years of experience in therapeutic and teaching practice. The result is a book that anyone with a feeling heart, a questing mind, and a dedicated willingness to deeply encounter self and other, can surely understand and grow from immensely—again and again.

Saniel Bonder, founder, Waking Down in Mutuality, author, Ultimaya 1.0 and Healing the Spirit/Matter Split



This is an important and tremendously useful book, packed with wisdom and insight. Highly recommended!

— Ken Wilber, author of The Integral Vision

Transformation Through Intimacy: The Journey Toward Awakened Monogamy is a bold, refreshing guide for anyone craving a deeper, more authentic connection with their beloved — AND who is willing to dive into new depths of compassion, understanding, and honesty. The rewards are exponential, as I've experienced personally. Robert truly is a master.

— Mary Allen, author of The Power of Inner Choice

An illuminating and practical book about how intimate relationship can be a path for deep healing, transformation, and awakening. Masters writes with strength and precision — pay particular attention to his groundbreaking chapters on emotion and sexuality. The author has clearly lived the material presented.

— Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., author of Five Wishes and The Big Leap

Robert Masters grabs us like no other couples therapist because his ear for the normalized reactivity and interpersonal laziness we bring to our close relationships is alarmingly familiar. No one can read this book and mindlessly fall back on, "I'm doing the best I can" or "I'm only human." But, happily...you will no longer want to. Masters' no-nonsense recognition of our immaturity fuels a profound and hopeful understanding of couples development where a genuine trust in Beingness neither bypasses immaturity nor allows it to run the show. Through his own intense investigation of intimate relationship, Masters teaches us that if we are willing to roll up our sleeves, we can discover that what we have always wanted actually exists: The safety with our beloved to be raw and unfiltered....and the safety to truly live in our Bigness. At a time when many are questioning the viability of longterm monogamy, Transformation Through Intimacy: The Journey Toward Awakened Monogamy shows us that we ultimately have only two romantic choices: Boredom or Grace.

— Nancy Dreyfus, Psy.D., author of Talk To Me Like I'm Someone You Love

In this oh so brilliant book, Masters calls us out from behind our relational hiding places, reminding us that there is a sacred, expansive path lying in waiting for us beyond the bondage of our unconscious connections. With powerful and heartfelt language, he paints a new and wondrous portrait of possibility for intimate relationship, one that awakens us to the often unseen universe that lives between and within our hearts. It is right there, close at heart, just waiting to be uncovered, embraced, and explored. Transformation through Intimacy: The Journey Toward Awakened Monogamy is a magnificent map of awakening. I highly recommend it to anyone who is ready to plunge deeper in their relational life.

— Jeff Brown, author of Soulshaping

A profoundly illuminating book! Robert Augustus Masters' breadth of expertise and depth of heart reveals the way to become intimate with all of who you are. His guidance is compassionate, penetrating, and clear as a bell, calling you into the very heart of relational intimacy. When Transformation through Intimacy: The Journey Toward Awakened Monogamy becomes required reading for teenagers, our world will transform! Robert is truly a master of human transformation. If you are ready to deepen your emotional intelligence and experience wholehearted, wide-awake, relational intimacy, this book is for you.

— Terah Kathryn Collins, author of The Western Guide to Feng Shui